In this episode, Ryan sits down with Hamish Niven, a creative businessman and coach who has transformed his life after battling addiction. Hamish shares his journey from being a successful photographer to struggling with alcoholism, entering rehab, and eventually dedicating his life to helping men overcome addiction. This inspiring conversation dives deep into the challenges of addiction, the importance of accountability, and the power of finding purpose.

Timestamps & Topics:

• [00:02] Welcome to the Show
  Ryan introduces the episode and discusses the importance of defining success on your own terms.
• [00:28] Meet Hamish Niven
  Ryan introduces Hamish, detailing his career journey in the TV and photography industries.
• [00:58] Struggling with Addiction
  Hamish opens up about his battle with alcoholism, the turning point in 2018, and the decision to enter rehab.
• [02:08] The Mission to Help Others
  Hamish shares how his experiences led him to start a business dedicated to helping men overcome addiction.
• [03:20] The Dark Side of Success
  Hamish discusses how stress and external pressures contributed to his addiction and how it impacted his personal and professional life.
• [04:46] The Consequences of Addiction
  A raw account of the daily struggles of addiction, including dangerous behaviors like driving under the influence.
• [05:44] The Moment of Clarity
  Hamish talks about the realization that he needed to make a drastic change and seek help.
• [06:37] Unpacking the Shame
  Ryan and Hamish explore the stigma around addiction and the deep shame that often accompanies it.
• [08:14] Redefining Masculinity and Addiction
  The discussion shifts to the societal expectations placed on men and how it can drive addictive behaviors.
• [11:47] Feeling Safe in Sobriety
  Hamish shares how finding safety and self-regulation were crucial in his recovery journey.
• [16:59] Building a New Life Post-Rehab
  Hamish emphasizes the importance of creating a new structure to support a sober life and avoid relapses.
• [19:05] Head and Heart Alignment
  The powerful shift that occurs when your mind and heart stop fighting and start working together.
• [23:27] The Loop of Stress and Relief
  Hamish explains how his drinking was an attempt to manage stress, but ultimately worsened his sense of control.
• [25:46] Navigating Post-Rehab Challenges
  Discussing the importance of structure and life changes after leaving rehab to maintain sobriety.
• [27:33] The Unexpected Duration of Healing
  Hamish reflects on the long and often painful process of recovery and finding his new path.
• [30:22] Letting Go of Control
  Hamish shares how surrendering control has been key to his ongoing growth and healing.
• [31:59] Addiction Beyond Substances
  Ryan and Hamish discuss how addiction extends beyond alcohol and drugs to behaviors like workaholism and shopping.
• [35:25] Redefining Success on Your Own Terms
  How to rebuild a life that aligns with your true values and desires, rather than societal expectations.
• [37:17] Positive Addictions vs. Destructive Addictions
  The conversation explores whether some addictions can have a positive role when managed correctly.
• [41:23] The Power of Community
  Hamish talks about the community he is building to support men in their journey of overcoming addiction.
• [45:47] Developing Awareness and Mindfulness
  How increased awareness and mindfulness have helped Hamish reconnect with his senses and manage his emotions.
• [50:03] Spiritual Awareness and Synchronicity
  The role of spirituality and synchronicities in Hamish’s ongoing journey and how they validate his path.
• [54:22] Making Sense of Change through the Crucible
  Hamish explains the concept of his podcast, The Crucible, and how it serves as a space for transformative conversations.
• [58:00] Shame and Letting Go
  The importance of releasing shame to move forward in life, especially after experiencing addiction.
• [1:03:10] Final Thoughts and Moving Forward
  Hamish’s message of hope and encouragement for those facing addiction or life changes.

Key Takeaways:

• Overcoming Shame: Shame often keeps people trapped in addiction. Letting go of it is a crucial step in healing.
• Finding Purpose: Discovering what truly matters to you can provide the motivation needed to overcome destructive habits.
• Community Support: Connection is the opposite of addiction. Being part of a supportive community can make a huge difference.

Links & Resources:

• Connect with Hamish Niven: Visit friendordepend.com or hamishniven.com to learn more about Hamish’s work.
• Explore Past Definitions of Success: Download a free guide on how the concept of success has evolved over the past century at ryanwattslifecoaching.com/100years.
• Join the Personal Success Accelerator Course: Start your journey towards defining success on your own terms at ryanwattslifecoaching.com/psacourse

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